DISQUS

The Jose Vilson Blog: A Memorandum on Friendship

  • The Jaded NYer · 4 months ago
    Ay, Jose... a quickie but goodie because I really needed to read this today.

    Peace, brother!
    R
  • Tracy · 4 months ago
    Ditto. Quick but good. It's not about getting people to love you, it's about loving people. Seems to be a good, solid theme these days.
    Tracy
  • Jose · 4 months ago
    Thank you both for the affirmations. Friendships in any venue are hard to come by.
  • modi · 4 months ago
    i'm of the same school of thought. friendships just evolve, depending. when my best friend got a boyfriend, i couldn't be at her house at all hours of the night like i used to, because i had to respect him, even though i don't mean any harm. that's an example that i've been seeing recently with a lot of my girl friends.

    i also believe that distance doesn't do anything but change the amount of times friends can hang. if you're really good friends, things will be like old times once you reunite. another reason why i co-sign your opinion. true friendship never ends. and if it does, they weren't supposed to be there in the first place. you learned, you appreciated, and you moved on.
  • Edward Carson · 4 months ago
    I always struggled with this, until I concluded that I need only those I can be real with. If I cannot be me and show some emotion with a true friend, then it is not really a relationship.
  • Liliana M. · 4 months ago
    I truly enjoyed reading this, in a way it summarized my own thoughts about my personal friendships. I often feel bad for losing touch with some people, but like you said... nothing bad happened, and they are always welcome back in my life.

    I wish others could understand this as well.